Sponsors of Janey Loves 2018 Platinum Awards – That Guy’s House

We are thrilled to have Sean Patrick of That Guy’s House as sponsor of our 2018 Platinum Awards!

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Sean Patrick is an author, international speaker and the owner of an Independent publishing company ‘That Guy’s House’ that exclusively publishes inspirational and positive mindset titles.

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Sean is self-proclaimed ‘in recovery’ from high levels of anxiety and depression due to the pressures of modern day living and he dedicates his work to reaching other people. Sean is part of Generation Y, a generation that is seen to be experiencing a mental health pandemic right now.

Sean has achieved recognition from the British Psychological Society (BPS) for his research in the field of Positive Psychology (specifically Mindfulness, Emotional intelligence, Spiritual IQ and Flourishing) and has been featured in the Daily Express, The Mail Online, Reveal Magazine and the Sunday express on topics and trends in up to date mental health research.

He is the founder of the blog ‘That Guy Who Loves the Universe’ which reaches over 20,000 subscribers and 100,000 visitors.

https://www.thatguyshouse.com/

Getting Older is Inevitable But Ageing is Optional!

‘Time has not been kind’ is the phrase I fear most being said about me. As I get older I feel an increasing urge to stay as youthful as possible, but on the other hand NOT try and be anything I am not.

It’s tricky getting older if you are in the media. I was aware of the vulgarity of ageing from as early as my late twenties, when after I had just had a hit record, (Cola Boy – 7 Ways to Love) a whopping number 8 in the charts I will have you know…my manager tried to secure a new record deal for me and was told rather bluntly…ah, sadly she is ‘over the hill’

Getting Older

Thankfully with the likes of Seasick Steve, the combined age of the Stones, and the continued success of much-loved iconic actresses like Helen Mirren, I think it’s becoming less of a stigma to not be – well young. Yet I still feel a compelling urge to lie about my age. After all, I spent so many years doing it once I realised I wouldn’t be taken seriously unless I did!

I started as a singer, was lucky enough to tour the world as a backing singer with Wham and George Michael, and a whole host of other artists. Despite being in the background I had a ball, and then I got catapulted into the spotlight and ‘went to the ball’ as it were when I had my own hit record in 1991. I carried on being a session singer but then gradually moved into radio because I loved it. My first radio job was as a presenter on BBC Radio London and I progressed from there to Virgin Radio and then onto Radio 2 where I have been for a staggering 18 years!

My Children Keep Me Young

I never intended to have children. I was always such a career girl and honestly the biological clock wasn’t ticking, or if it was I wasn’t listening. Somehow fate had other ideas, and what the doctors thought was an ovarian cyst turned out to be my first baby. I went on to have three more too, to the amazement of my friends, well and to me really.

There’s no doubt that having children transformed me, and it’s definitely kept me young. My husband is a few years older than me and our third child Rocky aged 14 had a bit of dig about our age as his parents (his dad had just turned 60). Honestly! why are you SO old? My friend’s parents are 35! You could be her grandparents! Our answer? Well you will get your inheritance sooner…

Age is Just a Number!

The truth is, age really is just a number, I know people in their thirties and forties that seem grey and tired, and I know a few 76 to 90+ rockers who squeeze every wonderful moment out of life.

We are a society obsessed by ‘labelling’ people by their age. I heard an excellent presentation a while back from Dr Christiane Northrup, the author of ‘Goddesses Never Age‘. Her Top Tips? Don’t celebrate milestone birthdays (well not after 25) and don’t put a number on your age!

She believes that getting older is inevitable but ageing is optional.

You really are as old as you feel, and true beauty really does come from within. I’ve interviewed lots of Hollywood stars who it’s accepted are ‘beautiful’ but they don’t radiate a beautiful energy. In many cases they don’t even have ‘sex appeal’. Yet I’ve interviewed older actresses who have an incredible energy. They literally ‘light up the room’ and everyone is attracted to them. Someone once said as you’re getting older, your kindness will show in your face. There may be good days and bad, but don’t choose to be in ‘normal health’, choose optimal!

Be Kind to Yourself

That’s my passion really, to be as healthy and live as holistically as possible, and to encourage others to be in rude health too and to live their purpose. I’ve been banging on about ‘wellbeing’ for years, since before my first book came out (Imperfectly Natural Woman was a number One Amazon best seller in 2006) – and before Kale had its own publicist!

Most of us do know the basics:

Refuse to grow up! The phrase ‘grown up’ seems to suggest that we have stopped learning! Christiane recommends that when people ask you your age, look them in the eye and say..’What’s your real question ?’

Goddesses Never Age by Dr Christiane Northrup (Hay House)

Janey Lee Grace is the author of Look Great Naturally Without Ditching the Lipstick (Hay House) and You are the Brand (PR secrets for entrepreneurs)

This article was first published on Mr and Mrs 50 Plus – April 2018 –  www.mrandmrs50plus.com

Worried about your kids education? And are you in your element?

Spoiler alert!!!!  If you don’t have school age children, you might still be inspired by this post!

As the kids start back for the summer term, there will be parents everywhere feeling exhausted by the motivating their children back into their uniforms and out the door, not to mention concerns about homework and testing. How important is education to our health and well being?  Hugely –  I’m sure you would agree, but why is trying to determine the right education for our children or supporting decisions made for our grandchildren so stressful for so many? How do you feel about your own education and do you ever feel that your creativity is help back by having the ‘wrong’ education? I loved the line in The Durrells (my all time fave TV show) where Mrs Durrell is worrying about Gerry’s schooling  (or lack of it) her wise guest tells her…My mother always knew there is a fine line between formal education and ‘fannying about’

As someone who has been through this and is to a certain extent still living with this stress – we have two school age children, one who doesn’t fit the mould and recently gave a TEDX talk on What’s wrong with the current education system(click to watch) …I am inspired by Sir Ken Robinson, we were lucky enough to interview him on Radio 2 recently on his new book You, your child and school.- Navigate your way to the best education.

Ken has balanced various roles: as a teacher, writer, researcher, adviser and speaker and has directed and been involved in many initiatives around the world, with education systems and with corporate, cultural and community organizations.  Sir Ken Robinson is the most watched speaker in TED’s history. His 2006 talk, “Do Schools Kill Creativity” has been viewed online over 40 million times and seen by an estimated 350 million people in 160 countries! The book is great and very timely because so many parents are deeply concerned about education which has become a minefield of politics and controversy.  It’s so difficult to know what  to look for in a school, and to know what we can do if we feel it isn’t right for our child,  With good schools oversubscribed and a panic to get the school of your choice depending on catchment areas, we can feel powerless which leads to huge stress and anxiety.

Ken dispels some myths and challenges that many of us might feel are set in stone. He has argued in the past that art and dance are just as important as geography and physics, and that ‘Imagination is the source of all human achievement’.  In our interview he pointed out that there are many wonderful teachers, but in many cases they are straitjacketed by the system which perpetuates way too many tests and the ‘one size must fit all’ approach.  He suggests we should look to Finland where they have a far superior education system, which revolves around ‘life skills’ and zero testing.

It’s an inspirational read, but if you don’t have children or grandchildren at this point, don’t pass Ken by, check out his New York Times best-selling book The Element, How finding your passion changes everything, – co-authored with Lou Aronica.  It doesn’t really matter what age you are, it’s never too late to find your passion and make sure you are doing what you love.
The Element: How Finding Your Passion Changes Everything

The Blurb says…The Element is the point at which natural talent meets personal passion. When people arrive at the Element, they feel most themselves, most inspired and achieve at their highest levels. With a wry sense of humor, and drawing on the stories of a wide range of artists, scientists, athletes, business leaders, academics, and many others, Ken Robinson shows why finding your Element is essential for all of us and explores the conditions that lead us to live lives that are filled with passion, confidence, and personal achievement.

He got a cool accolade too….

Offers life-altering insights about the discovery of your true best self.” – STEPHEN R. COVEY, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Its so true, we need to be in the flow, be in our element to feel fulfilled, if you have kids, help them to find their element, its not too late for you either – to be the best person you can be, love what you do!

If you have a business and want to attract clients and a tribe, make sure that you know what makes them tick,  and make sure they know about you.  Your vibe attracts your tribe remember so ensure that you are giving off the right energy – one of being ….in your element!

Surely that’s the recipe for well being

 

You, Your child and school by Ken Robinson is out now
You, Your Child and School

Are you going for it 100 per cent?

How committed are you to growing your brand? Getting recognition for your work? Finishing your book? Attracting the right clients and media attention?   Fully I’m guessing you will say.  I too consider myself a very ‘committed’ person, once I make a decision to do something I usually see it through…however I read a blog post recently on the Greatist website by Susie Moore, a British confidence expert who is based in the US, which gave me one of those AHA moments, and made me take a long hard look at myself.

Her post is all about committing wholeheartedly to something, she starts the blog by describing going out to dinner with a friend who quit sugar, if she teases her and says …want a bite of my dessert?, her friend says ‘No thanks’ with ease and indifference. Susie asks, is it hard for her to turn it down every time?  NO,  because she is fully committed.  Susie argues that its our ‘well meaning 90 per cent effort’ that is exhausting, it consumes energy without producing results, and we fall short of our potential

She quotes Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles, who says  “99 percent is a b*tch. 100 percent is a breeze.”

I started to think about how this could relate to me, and I realized that there are areas in my life where I am 100 per cent committed.  I don’t use synthetic chemical skincare, beauty products and wherever possible (and husband and teenage kids not withstanding) I avoid chemical cleaning and laundry products.  I am committed to constantly researching great new products and services to blog about and I am totally committed to  my #changemaker clients – helping them become more visible in the media.

There’s other stuff too of course, but it got me thinking about my own goals.  I wrote a novel a couple of years ago, and despite having written five non fiction books including a Number One Amazon Best Seller Imperfectly Natural Woman, Imperfectly Natural Woman: Getting Life Right the Natural Way
I found myself floundering and nervous as to whether its any good and how to get it away.   If you had asked me a few weeks ago, Am I committed to getting my novel published? I’d have said, of course I want ti more than anything….sort of…. Why then have  I wasted a year without approaching a good literary agent or really making in-roads into publishing?  If I search my soul I know its fear, yep the inner critic doing its thing.   Ironically I bang on about this when I speak at events, I remind people who have a talent, a passion, an opportunity to make a difference, NOT to allow their inner critic to determine how small they stay, or how much they grow.

I often quote Julia Cameron the fabulous author of The Artists Way,The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity  I had the pleasure of working with her at a Hay House conference, and she told the audience of wannabee authors, to listen attentively and notice the inner voice when it tells you that you arent good enough, that you can’t possibly attract an agent or publishing deal, that you will never finish your manuscript…listen and the reply (inwardly probably best) ‘Thank you for sharing…now f**k off!’

I’ve been though phases over the last year to trying to get my book away, but not following up, I tried one agent (v big time) and was refused so instead of picking myself up and starting again, I allowed myself to wallow in rejection (bonkers right?  Didn’t JK Rowling have a load of rejections?  Julia Cameron herself had 42 rejections for her debut novel and then a publishing bidding war on the 43rd attempt)   I waited and waited and procrastinated about the edit, about  how much time I could commit to it, about getting started on my next one, (I have lots of ideas)  The truth is it has taken a lot of my time and energy ’90-percenting’ it, perhaps it will flow more easily if I finally give it 100 per cent of my attention.

Susie suggests we identify what needs 100 per cent of our attention, from a habit you need to quit altogether to a business goal, maybe even the need to declutter and detox from certain ‘friends;

Then we must put the effort in and commit.  Do what it takes and don’t look back, its tough, but in tbe long run easier than constantly thinking about the problem and agonising over it.  Then she recommends that we repeat the same process with the new priority, because once something is properly finished we have a sense of completion and feel ready for the next thing.

I am going to make a few changes, the truth is I wear a lot of hats, I can’t just do ‘one thing’ I know I know I know that’s advised but it just ain’t me, I can however decide which of my many ‘projects’ are taking too much of my mental energy without getting anywhere, then I will decide if they are really worth committing 100 per cent to, if not …out they go.

What are you currently 90 percenting?  if like me there are several things, take stock, choose what you really want for your life, your work your success and go for it 100 per cent, so that whether you work on it today, or tomorrow, or regularly is just not a variable.  You’re committed.  End of.

Check out Susie Moore’s  website and Susie if you read this, thanks for the kick up the butt!