The Power of Choice

I attended a fascinating parenting talk recently, the theme was Pathways to Addiction but it strayed into many other areas related to parenting including the importance of the choices we make. The speaker was Tessabella Lovemore, (the perfect name!) an education consultant, social scientist and counsellor.  She worked for many years as a teacher in Steiner schools and now focuses on child development.

After explaining that she believes that habits are not the same as addictions she went on to explain the three phases of childhood, as outlined in Rudolf Steiner’s work. It won’t surprise you to know that the formative years are the most critical for just about everything including whether or not the child will be likely to develop addictive behaviours. In these early years, especially between age one and three children want to do what you do, if you’re doing the housework, they want the experience of sweeping too (and she reminded us that a toy broom won’t cut it!). She believes at this tender age babies are like little scientists trying to make sense of the world and it’s hugely important that there is routine and rhythm involved and that everything remains constant.  

She gave the example of a toddler dropping food from a highchair and enjoying the sensation of the substance dropping, then finding out if it does the same thing a second and third time (before the parent swoops in to mop up the mess!). She believes that too much change at this stage is unsettling for them, and she says they don’t need too many choices at this time because this will create anxiety.  Till the age of 7 and especially up to 3, children want to feel that everything is steady, stable and strong, and there shouldn’t be too many decisions needing to be made by them.

Of course in the next phase 7-14 and the final phase 14- 21, things change considerably, the children are interested in their ‘inner world’ too, how they relate to peers, communities, learning the differences between themselves and others and beginning to build trust (or a lack of trust) in others. Between 14 and 21 it’s all about individuality and this is where they need to be given lots of choice, and to be able to notice their own sense of ‘will’.

Tessa suggests that the stronger the fundamental belief in themselves (that stems from that security and stability in those formative years) the less children have the tendency to try to ‘grab back’ what’s missing, to ‘fill that hole’ with some or other substance or behaviour.

Of course all of us know in our rational mind that taking drugs, drinking alcohol, eating too much sugar, or becoming a sex addict, won’t bring back a missing parent, or make us feel any better about ourselves, but the subconscious mind sometimes hasn’t caught up and is trying to numb the ‘lack’, or reach out for more of whatever we didn’t have.  This resonated with me very much because despite my work inspiring others and encouraging them to have more self-love, I often fall foul of my own ideals and catch myself coming out with some pretty terrible ‘inner talk’ and making some poor choices, whether they be around what I do, say or eat.  

Recently, I wanted to lose a few pounds (weight not money), I did a fairly punishing diet (despite knowing intuitively that diets don’t work) and then was gutted at the end of the period – when I hadn’t cheated at all) that I had lost not even one pound.  I went to see my awesome and very wise kinesiologist Miriam (PM me for her details but not too many of you or I won’t get an appointment!) and she commented on the fact that I looked well, ‘sparkling’ in fact…’but hugely fat’ I added ‘I’m SO overweight’.  She pointed out that I was constantly telling my subconscious mind that I am fat and overweight and it was duly supporting my own declaration. She went as far as to say my ‘weight management’ is entirely emotional and not down to an excess of food or lack of exercise.

If you’ve ever seen me speak you know I talk a lot about the power of language, about taming the ‘inner talk’ and replacing those unhelpful comments by asking ‘is this true?’

I encourage people to revel in their YOU-nique brilliance so that they have a treasure trove of self-love to dip into when the doubts come in, before reaching for the cream cake or the poison of their choice. So why wasn’t I doing the same for myself?  My therapist pointed out that I was literally walking around as if with the devil on my shoulder nagging me all day. You should be exercising more, drinking less, you shouldn’t be eating that, you should have a lettuce leaf, you’re so fat…. As I say on my talks, when most of us look in the mirror in the morning, if we spoke out loud our inner talk, and child was nearby we would be had for abuse!

So what to do?  We all know about the power of affirmations but unfortunately some of us are just too damn clever (she boasts!). We practice saying ‘I love you’ to ourselves and we look in the mirror and say ‘I love and accept my body’ and somewhere in that subconscious mind up pops another thought…You’re lying…so the whole cycle starts again.

Miriam gave me another rather brilliant solution and it ties in with Tessa’s talk (if you were wondering where I’m going with this!) she suggests that as adults we want to feel we have choices, many of them and we want to really own our choices.  She asked me to constantly say…’I could choose to’love my body… have a salad instead of chips…get up earlier and go to a class…arrive early…  The word ‘could’ is important, Miriam believes if we try and use Will power and say ‘I WILL get up earlier, I WILL have a salad, I WILL not have a second glass of wine…Then our subconscious mind sees that yet again, like the nagging voice, it’s another way of saying I ‘should’ I ought to’ and often the rebellious child in us will simply say…’blow it,  I may as well have the whole packet of biscuits’.  But by saying I could choose to, we remind ourselves that we can make the choice, any choice, but we don’t have to – we have the power to make our own decisions based on what we really want, not what we feel we ought to want.

So if you have young children your remit is an easy one, let them explore and enjoy the stability of their world, don’t offer too much choice, if you have a teenager – just listen, don’t try to fix them and let them work through their choices and if you are an adult – STILL not getting everything right (who is?) then be kind to yourself and start using the phrase ‘I could choose to…’

If you have a message to share, a book to write, a course to create and you are procrastinating, it’s likely that you are doing a lot of ‘I should-ing’ and telling yourself ‘I ought to be writing…I strongly suggest that you create a vision board, get in touch with want you really want and then say to yourself regularly, I could choose to write my book, create my course…

That way you can give yourself permission to get started – or not. If you want help focusing on your USP, or the creation of your course then you know where I am, you ‘could’ choose to give me a call and see how I can help





How Are Your Wheels Rolling?

Have you done a life audit lately?

If you’ve read any books on personal development you will be very familiar with the concept of assessing your life, checking in with your core values, your goals and intentions, and then checking where you are really at on a day to day basis.

I’m sure you know too about the concept of the wheel of life, if you draw a wheel and divide up the spokes into categories – relationships, work, financial, health, physical activity, family etc. then you can honestly say where you are on that spoke. What usually happens is that we feel we’re doing well in a few areas and not so well in others – hence why our ‘wheel’ – our life, doesn’t always roll along as smoothly as we would like.

It’s a really good indicator to look at the big picture and ask how aligned are you. On my workshops I ask people to really look at and assess their core values, it’s the classic exercise where they start by choosing twenty words from a long list that resonate with them, then they need to narrow down to ten and then five and finally the top three. At first it seems impossible because we want to be everything but eventually it’s possible usually to focus on the three values that feel most intrinsic to who we are.  From there, we can clearly see if we are putting our efforts in the right place!

Recently I’ve been reading The Compound Effect, read my blog post HERE. The author Darren Hardy spends a good chunk of the book talking about life assessment, but rather than suggest we mark ourselves between one and ten in each category, i.e. relationships and family, physical, business, financial, spiritual, he goes one step further and suggests we have subsections for each category.  So for example, under the heading Spiritual, you rate between one and five on a series of ‘sub- questions’ such as:

‘I consider myself a spiritual person’

‘I take at least twenty minutes a day to meditate and reflect on my life’

‘I study my spiritual beliefs daily’…and several more

Rating these questions brought on one of those light bulbs for me because I am so often caught up in business and minutia, I don’t think I’d been honest with myself until I’d looked at it and saw just how many things that I say are hugely important to me, are going by the wayside in the name of being too busy.

If I merely had to rate the ‘spirituality’ corner of my wheel I would have rated it about an eight, yet when I really answered those very pertinent questions, I came down to a measly four. 

As I went through each of the questions in the categories I had to be really honest with myself, I DO consider myself ‘spiritual’ but recently I have barely had time to go to the loo let alone carve out regular meditation time, and when I scored so low it was a bit of a wake-up call, as it’s high on my priorities.

In the ‘physical’ section of the wheel it was even more of a revelation, as someone who walks a lot, does regular yoga, Pilates, a fit-steps dance class (if you haven’t tried it DO!!), Nia dance whenever I can and the odd workout with weights when I remember, I usually score myself fairly high but in his life assessment breakdown questions, Darren throws in some curveballs…

Score yourself between one and five…

I do strength training at least 3x a week…(oops)

I do cardiovascular training at least 3x a week (nope)

I do stretching and yoga type exercises at least 3x a week (almost…)

And there was more…now of course all of his suggestions aren’t appropriate for everyone, but it is interesting how when you get down to the detail maybe there’s room for improvement, not in order to meet anyone else’s standards, only your own.

I’m not saying any of this to further beat myself up for what I’m not achieving – I’m self-made ‘imperfectly natural’ – remember – but it did make me question how I spend my time and focus.

So I’d urge you to do your own new wheel of life, include some pertinent sub questions, and be honest, cut yourself some slack though too, as a girlfriend said to me recently gentle with yourself.

Little Things Mean a Lot, (Small Change, Big Difference)

I’m a sucker for a good personal development book, I’m guessing you are too, I’m literally that person who revels in ‘shelf-development’ and I could probably donate my collection to the British Museum and make an impact, the thing is how much do we really take action on the great tips and advice we read?

There’s no doubt that books are awesome value, people (just like you) who have put potentially thousands of hours into honing their ideas and their craft to present it to you for a mere ten or so quid.

As a writer of motivational stuff, a Hay House author, and someone who runs workshops encouraging people to write their book, take the first steps…et al, you’d think I might have reached a point where I felt I didn’t need the ‘classic’ books around success and wellbeing.  I’m well versed in the classics from Napoleon Hill through Scott Peck, to Hay House hero’s Dr David Hamilton, Pam Griers, Cheryl Richardson et al, not to mention Wayne Dyer.  However, I came across an unassuming paperback at an event recently and something about it resonated. ‘The Compound Effect, Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success’ is by Darren Hardy, the publisher of Success Magazine, it’s been a New York Times best seller and the foreword is written by none other than Anthony Robbins, a must for the library of course, but something about this book actually made me want to read it, properly.  Despite the author being American (and I doff my cap here to my US counterparts across the pond) there was none of the pious ‘get rich quick’ strive for success at all costs’ kind of dialogue, this is one of the most realistic down to earth books about success I have ever read.


The basic premise is that it’s not the ‘life changing’ massive 360 degree changes that sometimes come along to rock our world that shape most of us (though of course that might be the case) – rather it’s the little things we do (or don’t do) every single day, the small changes that when ‘compounded’ over time make a massive difference. Darren blows away the theory that only ‘lucky people’ are successful, that you have to be ‘naturally’ talented to succeed, instead he drills in the old fashioned traits of hard work, resilience, practice, yes he even goes as far as to say the path to becoming successful can be downright boring, lonely and unsexy.  In our quick fix society we aren’t often used to hearing that and I found it hugely refreshing to read a multi billionaire tell me there is no quick fix.  You, like me, may be exhausted by the stream of emails you get from ‘million dollar marketers’ promising you instant success overnight if you just pay them that six figure sum.

Darren says there is a formula for getting lucky:

Preparation (personal growth) +

Attitude (belief / mindset) +

Opportunity (a good thing comes your way) +

Action (doing something about it) =


The book is full of his own tales of growing up with a sergeant major style father who cut him no slack but made him the disciplined man he is today, he reminds us of the importance of tracking how we spend our time, analysing our thoughts, practising gratitude (a big one) being aware of our own habits and who is controlling who. I love his suggestion of taking each of your ‘vices’ – be it wine, coffee, chocolate and stopping that habit for 21 days to check that it isn’t controlling you.  He suggests taking a long hard look at your habits, whether that be eating too much, procrastinating over a project you know you need to get started (how many of my clients tell me they know they MUST write their book…, avoiding conflict even though you know you need to ditch toxic relationships in your life and allowing fear to take hold (so that you hold back rather than taking the first steps to starting your business or fulfilling your dreams).  We all think we need huge amounts of ‘willpower’ to change our habits, but as anyone who has ever tried to lose a considerable amount of weight just by giving up the extra calories will know, willpower doesn’t work, what we need is ‘why-power’ – if you want to make significant improvements in your life you have to have a ‘why’.

When I work with heart centred businesses this is usually the core of the problem, many of the people I work with are therapists or practitioners, and they are doing the work they are doing because they want to make a difference, they want to bring light, healing transformation, whatever it might be, but they are not always quite ready to stand in the spotlight and claim their own ‘USP’ their YOU-nique brilliance.  ‘Don’t look at me…look at EFT…or aromatherapy…they say, but we have to see you, and you have to be willing to stand up and be counted. Be visible. A great number of people are nervous of speaking in public, having their photograph at the top of their website, doing a live stream on Facebook, but it’s true that people do business with those they like know and trust, so in order to sense if they can like you they need to see you!

The good news is you don’t need to be transformed overnight from a shy wallflower to Beyonce, as this book shows it’s the compound effect that matters, it’s the little things you do every day. You could start by keeping a notebook and every day write in it 3 things you are grateful for and at least one thing you are proud of about yourself – take note this doesn’t have to be about your work, practice in front of a mirror or a supportive friend, introducing yourself and your work, till you feel confident enough to stand up at a networking event and make your pitch.

The key is to be aware of what you want, what’s currently holding you back and know you can change.  Pay attention to it every day and the ‘compound effect’ means that over time…the little actions add up and you will be on course to achieve your success – no gimmicks, no spin, no quick fix. Old fashioned hard work, knowing what you want and going for it, bit by bit…and then some.

The Compound Effect

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy – Da Capo Press


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On Our Radar… 10 natural and organic beauty influencers to work with

I’m so proud to be in the top ten (with Gwyneth Paltrow!) as a top organic/natural beauty influencer with Fashion Beauty Monitor. I’m so passionate about the work that I do, bringing natural health and eco products and services into the mainstream and so I’m thrilled to be alongside some really great influencers!


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DJ, author, singer and natural beauty advocate Jane Lee Grace pens her tips for living a chemical-free life over on her blog Imperfectly Natural, where she also hosts the Janey Loves Platinum Awards. She has also topped the Natural Beauty Year Book several times.

Janey Lee Grace


You can check out the full article and see who’s with me in the list of 10 HERE>>

Writing A Book – Your Calling Card

If you’ve heard me speak you will know one of my strategic 4 ‘C’s is Content Creation (the others are Clarity, Confidence and Connections) and in addition to encouraging experts, entrepreneurs and small business owners to create great informative content to connect with their potential clients and customers, I also talk about the fact that writing a book in order to share your message and promote your work can be a brilliant calling card.

I usually give the example of working in a newsroom or TV production office where when an expert is needed to comment on a specific topic, if no-one immediately springs to mind they would then start googling authors who have written on the subject – the assumption is that if you have written a book you are an expert on the topic.

Add three letters to the word Author and you become an Authority…  

AUTHOR + ITY = Authority

Sometimes in order to get you going all you need is some encouragement and support. I’m thrilled that one of our sponsors in the Platinum Awards is AuthorCraft, a network founded by Chris Day, which is very much about supporting writers whether they self-publish or are with a mainstream publishing company.


AuthorCraft is the professional network for authors and is a member of the National Association of Writers Groups. At its monthly meetings in the Institute of Directors, London, it recognises the achievements of its members by holding book launches and provides independent and impartial advice on all aspects of origination, production, publishing, marketing and social media. 

Chris Day gives his top tips for would be authors ….

  1. Don’t start writing until you have complete clarity of who you are writing for – and what benefit they will get from your book.
  2. Be clear as to what potential readers are searching for online – for which your book has the answer. What key words will your book need to have for it to be found in these searches?
  3. Always work with a writing coach or an editor to help bring out the best in you – and get your manuscript well-polished and ‘oven-ready’.
  4. Never do your own proof reading or rely on a relative who was once a teacher. Proofreading is a professional job, don’t cut corners or spend the rest of your life apologising for typos!
  5. Unless you’re a qualified designer, don’t design you own book cover. People can spot a ‘self-published book’ from two streets away. A professional design is essential.
  6. The most important thing on your book cover is not the picture, but the heading, the title and the strapline. These three need to tell an unambiguous story.
  7. Choose your book category with care. Look at other books similar to yours and see what categories they are in. If you’re after the same readers, be where they are looking!
  8. Never fill you garage with boxes of books. These days you don’t need to as you can print to order. But buy well. For your book to make you a profit the raw print price has to be below 20% of the cover price. You just need to shop around.
  9. A book publicist is a great investment. Their personal contacts in the media will get you coverage that no general press release will ever achieve (ahem …Janey Lee Grace?)
  10. Every new book is a start-up business and needs to be treated just like any other new business. Your business start-up costs need to be spread over your first year. Make sure you make a profit from every book you sell.
  11. Become known on social media as a go-to expert in your field. You would not believe the difference to your standing in the marketplace that becoming a published author will achieve.

Contact AuthorCraft and attend one their monthly meetings, first time visitors can attend for free.

If you want help getting clarity on the book you want to write, get in touch, and it goes without saying if you want help promoting your book let me know


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Spotlight Interview: Shann Nix Jones


In my UK Health Radio ‘Spotlight Show’ I interview some of the world’s most inspiring self-development coaches, gurus and personalities about their health and wellbeing services, products and knowledge.

In this previous interview I spoke with Shann Nix Jones the author of the Amazon bestseller book – Secrets from Chuckling Goat

Shann Jones never expected to fall in love with a Welsh farmer at the age of 41. She didn’t anticipate leaving her city girl existence as a radio talk show host in San Francisco to end up as the mistress of a 25-acre self-sustaining farm in Wales. And she certainly didn’t expect to find herself locked in a battle to save her husband’s life from a deadly superbug infection, armed only with natural remedies and the live culture drink they make on the farm.

Secrets from Chuckling Goat is a true story, taken from Shann’s diaries. It’s about second-chance love stories, and happy endings that pop up when you least expect them. It’s a story about nature, and farm life, and ancient recipes. And most of all, it’s about the miracles that can happen when you refuse to give up hope.

Listen to my interview with Shann HERE>>>


Spotlight Interview: Patrick Holford


In my UK Health Radio ‘Spotlight Show’ I interview some of the world’s most inspiring self-development coaches, gurus and personalities about their health and wellbeing services, products and knowledge.

In this interview I speak with Patrick Holford about the role of prevention in Alzheimer’s and Dementia.

Patrick is a pioneer in new approaches to health and nutrition. He is a leading spokesman on nutrition in the media, specialising in the field of mental health and is the author of 36 books, translated into over 30 languages and selling millions of copies worldwide, including The Optimum Nutrition Bible, The Low GL-Diet Bible, Optimum Nutrition for the Mind and The 10 Secrets of 100% Healthy People, 10 Secrets of Healthy Ageing and Good Medicine.

Listen to my interview with Patrick HERE>>>


What Are the Barriers to Confidence?

If you have heard me speak recently or attended a workshop you will know I am passionate about encouraging people to nail exactly how they will get their message across, whether this is your business brand, your personal brand or something that you are really passionate about, it must feel authentic.

So what is it that holds us back from standing in the spotlight? From promoting yourself or getting the job of your dreams? I know many experts, small business owners and entrepreneurs (even very successful ones) who have turned down the opportunity to speak, be interviewed or pitch their brand to an influential team.  Usually it’s lack of confidence, the nagging voice in your head that says ‘people won’t want to listen to me, I don’t know how I will cope if someone heckles, I may stumble over my words or drop my notes’.

The chances are that at some point when you were a child your confidence took a knock, perhaps you had to stand up and speak in class and someone laughed or you tried to tell a joke and no-one laughed. Most of us are aware of feelings of being judged, concerned about what people will think of us, this is all back to the power of the subconscious mind – most of us are not very kind to ourselves, and if we were to speak to a 5-year-old child the way we talk to ourselves we would be had up for abuse!

For many people when they’re asked to speak or to be interviewed, the line of talk will go something along the lines of…


’I couldn’t do that, I’m a terrible public speaker, I wouldn’t look good, everyone would judge my awful clothes and I’m several pounds overweight, I’d never be able to remember anything without reading from a full script and my voice would probably sound really weak and not confident, I can’t be interviewed because I just wouldn’t get the answers out that I really want to, I’d get all confused and then everyone listening would think I’m stupid’ and so it goes on…


We’ve all been there! The inner critic from our subconscious mind. But once you’ve acknowledged that you DO have an important message to share, a desire to promote what you do and who you are to a wider audience FOR THE GREATER GOOD OF US ALL then it’s time to find a way to conquer the fears and the inner talk.

If you can drill down to your USP, identify your own unique qualities then you can start talking to your sub conscious mind and to others about your passion, about how you do feel confident to stand on stage or be interviewed about your subject because it’s such a thrill for you to talk about something you love.  In fact, it’s your DUTY to get it out there.

When your nerves come into play the trick is to talk to yourself a different way. Ask yourself whether the fear is really an old fear, linked to a childhood memory, or is it that you fear the particular group of people you are going to be speaking to? Whatever it is, challenge yourself, and come up with a new dialogue instead of letting your subconscious destroy your confidence.

When you feel really solid on your subject matter then it becomes unshakable, so it really won’t matter if an audience didn’t particularly like you or the interviewer seems to ask purposely awkward questions. You will feel that confidence in yourself and know that your message is important, and if the audience seem uninterested – well that’s about them, not you.

I remember I was once booked to speak at a conference for the Rotary club, when I arrived I realised I was sandwiched between several other celebrities and after dinner speakers and suddenly I realised that they had probably booked me because they knew I was a co-presenter on Steve Wright in the afternoon on Radio 2 and they knew I interviewed lots of big stars and celebs. I started to panic, I was there to talk about holistic living and offer tips and ideas from my first book Imperfectly Natural Woman and so hadn’t prepared anything else, my sub conscious mind said that I’d be mocked, ‘there’s no way they’re going to want to hear about eco laundry products and organic skincare’, the speaker before me was award winning actress Dame Anna Neagle!

I told myself they would feel I was totally incongruent and out of touch with them, the audience was mostly middle aged gentlemen and their wives. Suddenly I stopped my subconscious chatter in its tracks and said to myself (or possibly out loud) ‘I’m passionate about my message, I know I will deliver an informative and entertaining talk and if it’s not what they were expecting – well hey – surprise!’  I practised a few techniques and visualised myself as a success.

Well guess what, I went out, hit them with half an hour of tips and ideas for everything from avoiding artificial sweeteners to the importance of ditching the chemicals, using bi-carbonate of soda and white vinegar for cleaning, and how you can make a great facial scrub with oatmeal, though I say so myself I rocked it!  Embarrassingly, the next speaker had to be delayed because there was such a massive queue to buy my book, I sold all the 300 books I’d taken along with me, and could probably have sold more! 

If I had let my nervous subconscious chatter destroy my confidence I dread to think what would have happened. I did however quickly ‘re-assess’ my talk. I delivered the same talk but with a nod towards the audience, this is sometimes called doing a quick audience analysis, in this case all I did was ‘up’ my ‘entertainment’ value, threw in a gag or two about working with celebrities and left out the section on the importance of breastfeeding! Effective speakers and communicators do ‘read’ their audience and match their behaviour, as you walk into the room you can decide whether to warm them up a bit and connect with them, telling a bit of an impromptu story as you set up your laptop or whatever, or are they shuffling in their seats wanting to really get on with it.

But back on the confidence and the destructive inner talk that can so easily affect us. Really look at what your fears are…perhaps you’re saying to yourself … ‘I’ll stumble on some of my phrases…or I’ll be clumsy and drop my glass of water…whatever’.  But from the audience’s perspective they won’t notice the stumbling, they will only connect with the passion that you have for your subject, how real you are, …whether you seem likable, and like someone they could get to know and trust – and so what if you spill the water, you’re human.

The Power of Your Tribe

It was inspiring hearing Lynne McTaggart speak at the recent Hay House conference, Lynne is an author, a journalist, scientist, and editor of the long running publication ‘What doctors don’t tell you’ which is a magazine that reports on non-drug alternatives and takes a critical yet fully researched look at conventional medicine – specifically treatments or medication that may not be proven to be safe or effective.

Lynne Mctaggart

The magazine has attracted the attention of sceptics who are funded by Big Pharma, and after a big campaign The Times newspaper ran an article declaring that ‘What doctors don’t tell you’ was giving false information which could be fatal!    

There was a call for the magazine to be taken off the shelves and Tesco bowed to pressure, at no point were the editors contacted or given a right to reply, and so Lynne – instead of resorting to legal recourse, took the fight right back to them via the same channels.

She harnessed the power of social networking and her own mailing list and used ‘people power’.

Tesco bowed again and put the magazine back on the shelves. A current furore with WH Smith is ongoing and readers of the magazine or anyone who values free speech are being encouraged to write and encourage them to restock it. It’s surely time for us to take more personal responsibility for our own health and wellbeing and this magazine is an important information portal.

What’s so inspirational about this rather unsettling story is that when Lynne harnessed her networks and wrote many messages to the Trolls and to The Times asking why in the name of good journalism they didn’t ask for her comments, they duly ran another piece using an image of the mag cover, and her sales promptly doubled!

They do say that every cloud has a silver lining and Lynne encourages us all to be ‘people influencers’ to join forces with other likeminded people and spread positive messages, it’s easy to feel that sense of ‘it’s only little me’ – I can’t do anything that will make a difference’ but the power of ‘we’ can be very strong indeed.

Together we can be the change we want to see in the world.


The Bond

I highly recommend Lynne’s book ‘The Bond’ where she looks at the power of communities – find your tribe and get your positive messages out there.

If you’ve attended one of my workshops, or invested in an online course or coaching programme with me you are absolutely part of my ‘tribe’.

Make sure you join our exclusive Facebook group here where we truly have a powerful community, joint ventures, PR opportunities and support. I’d love to see you there.

Creating Your Dream

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams”

Eleanor Roosevelt


Have you got clarity on your goals? 

Have you got a big dream?

It’s amazing how many people don’t achieve what they say they want to achieve simply because they haven’t really set their intentions.

It’s good to start by having a dream for your work and for your business. It may seem like a time wasting exercise, ‘don’t daydream’ most of us were told at school and yet being able to dream something brings it closer to our reality.

Einstein was a dreamer, he probably would have been labelled as a child with learning difficulties if he had lived in our time, as he didn’t learn to read and write till quite late, but he daydreamed, and his greatest breakthrough was the theory of relativity – it came to him when he was daydreaming about what it would be like to ride a beam of light to the end of the universe.

Dreaming is a right brain function and you shouldn’t waste the possibility of harnessing your imagination and visualisation on your sleeping hours, absolutely take some time out to dream, get yourself into a relaxed state perhaps by taking some deep breaths, it might help to imagine a white light flowing through your body enabling you to feel completely relaxed.

“I dream my painting and then paint my dream”

Vincent van Gogh

From that state you can take your mind on a journey and ask yourself what is it that you really want?

Don’t be too woolly about it though, if a genie or fairy godmother was able to deliver your dream exactly as you had asked for it, make sure there’s no room for error!  Don’t make your one big goal – a space to work in….you may be given the edge of someone’s garage workbench, don’t say ‘I want to earn more money’…you may find your pay increases by just a few pounds…be specific, and if it’s a dream for your work or your business then make sure its detailed and will bring you the work life balance you really want.

Don’t forget to commit it to paper too, mind maps, affirmations and vision boards are all brilliant to remind us where we are headed.

At a Hay House conference recently one of the speakers gave the analogy of getting into a car and just setting off to go somewhere new, with no particular destination in mind, the truth is if you don’t put the postcode into the Sat Nav or open the map, who knows where you will end up! 

Get dreaming!