The Sober Club is OPEN!

 

the-sober-club-BLOG-IMAGE

Sober Curious? Ditched the booze a while ago?

Do you now want to focus on health wellbeing and positivity?

Have you found yourself saying…”I will only have one drink”…but then you finish the bottle!

Maybe you’ve stopped drinking but are still feeling unhealthy, overweight or out of sorts….or you’ve woken up at 3am berating yourself for drinking too much?

The Opposite of Addiction is Connection

 

My new project is The Sober Club online community. Despite talking about holistic health on BBC Radio 2, writing five books including the number One Amazon bestseller ‘Imperfectly Natural Woman’ and running imperfectlynatural.com, there was one missing piece of the ‘holistic health’ jigsaw for me and that was ditching the booze.

I now encourage people to ask themselves not “Am I drinking too much?” but rather “Would my life be better physically and emotionally without alcohol?” I take a very positive approach and want the focus to be on health and wellbeing, passion and purpose.

In The Sober Club you can connect with others and have open conversations without any judgement. You can learn therapeutic techniques such as EFT (emotional freedom technique), get inspiration and support to make lifestyle changes and discover sober tools and tips.

Come along and learn how to set healthy boundaries around relationships and put yourself first….and much more!

90 day course

In The Sober Club you will get:

  • ‘Get the Buzz Without the Booze’ – 90 Day Online Course
  • Live monthly talks with me, and advice from leading health, wellbeing, and mindset experts.
  • Access to an exclusive Facebook community.
  • Mindset Buzz – Guided meditations, hypnosis audios and relaxation videos.
  • Nutrition and Fitness Buzz – Detox advice, recipes and exercises.

So many people find that once they have removed the Alcohol Obstacle they have a new perspective and want to increase their fitness, their mental wellbeing, set new goals and challenges. In the coming weeks we’ll bring you so many pieces of the Optimum Wellbeing ‘jigsaw’. There will be something for everyone whatever stage you are at. Its all about positivity and moving forward.

If this resonates with you The Sober Club has just opened up and there is a special discounted rate of just £9.99 a month for founder members of this beta launch, if you join now you will stay at this rate for as long as you are a member. The doors remain open for just 14 days at this special price then the club will close and re-open in 2020 at more than double the price. JOIN US NOW! I can’t wait to see you there.

To sign up go to www.thesoberclub.com

 

ailsa-frank-De-Stress-Your-Life-358px

 

 

BONUS: Get a free hypnosis download when you join The Sober Club: Ailsa Frank’s De-Stress Your Life (worth £9.99)

 

Rocketing out of Despair

It’s everywhere, and Rocketman is on a different planet to other recent biopics. It’s a must see in my opinion for anyone who wants hope that there is a way out of whatever situation they are in.

The film is set against the backdrop of Elton’s addictions, in a group therapy session (where Elton played by Taron Egerton, sits resplendent in a devils costume complete with huge feathery wings and a cap with horns) reveals that he is an addict.  The scenes, interspersed of course by spectacular clips of Elton performing, take us back to his childhood where his mother is strangely distant, his father is seemingly not interested in him, and only his grandmother seems to want to nurture the burgeoning piano playing talent.

This lack of affection means Elton is painfully insecure and it’s not until he changes his name and creates a new identity for himself that he can really feel successful, but as life spins out of control he is eventually forced to take a rain check on the partying and head for rehab.

I was struck by the anxiety portrayed in this film, despite the immense wealth and notoriety he was deeply unhappy, He was finally able to reinvent himself though and has been sober for 28 years, he said in an interview that six months before he got sober, he gave away or sold all his possessions, he said he must have had a premonition that his life was going to change.   Change it did and Elton said in a recent interview about the film,

It’s a film about Redemption, about asking for help.  I was ashamed of myself, but  didn’t want to live like that, I wanted to become a good person, the person I didn’t know.  The  message is  if you are in a bad way, ask someone for help, It’s difficult asking for help, but my life since I got sober has been quite the most amazing journey, I don’t have to wake up feeling like I don’t want to wake up’.

It’s a story of reinvention passion and a sort of salvation and as the final song I’m still standing says he’s a ‘true survivor’  I got to see it first at a press screening and it was lovely to see Zoe Ball there too, here we are – sober sisters!

If the movie encourages one person to ask for help for their anxiety, addiction or depression it will have done an amazing job.  It reminded me of how important our families really are, in my podcast episode I speak about my own experience of family constellations, and how it changed my relationship with my own mother, in every family there are entanglements and past trauma that can still be having an impact on the present.  If you are interested in this work check out www.familyconstellationsherts.co.uk Its life changing work.  The lovely thing about this movie is that Elton is able to forgive at the end, and I hope it’s not too much of a spoiler to say he is finally able to hug his younger self.  The film is about much more than a rock n roll lifestyle which eventually crashed out, its much more about finding who he really was, As someone said recently on facebook (and I’m mortified that I can’t credit him or her cos I can’t find it again) ….

‘The goal isn’t to be sober, the goal is to love yourself so much that you don’t need to drink’

Rocketman (15) is out now

 For anyone considering ditching the booze check out the Selfcare for the Sober Curious events, free monthly events in London with the charity My Yard with inspirational guests. https://bit.ly/2YHqfxT

Check out the Podcast Alcohol free life for some inspirational guests

 

 

Super Exciting Announcement Tedx

As an author, presenter and speaker I have always (like so many of the clients I’ve coached) wanted to do a TEDx talk. I applied right at the last minute on a whim really and I am thrilled to say I was selected from hundreds of applicants to be part of TEDxNorwichED. It’s Europe’s only full day TEDxED event.

I’m talking Saturday 13th July and I’m told tickets are likely to fly out of the door, they go on sale at 7.30pm tonight.

There is a Facebook live event tonight around 7.30pm to meet some of the speakers, I will join in of course and you’d be welcome to look in on their Facebook page @tedxnorwiched

GET YOUR TICKETS HERE>>>

 

untitled 2

And what am I talking about?

Well the title of my talk is ‘Sobriety Rocks’ – Who knew! I’m sure many of you have seen my posts, blogs and events I’m running such as next Monday’s ‘Selfcare for the Sober Curious’ event. I want to encourage people who know or suspect they might feel better physically and emotionally without alcohol in their lives, to recognize that there is a whole new world waiting. I really have been amazed to discover, ( to quote Catherine Gray’s bestselling book title) ‘The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober’.

Of course, I am passionate about holistic living so my take on it all is to inspire people towards mindful drinking or quitting and then focusing on good nutrition, ditching the toxins et al.

I’d love to see you there, or if not, of course you will be able to watch it live online.

Janey TEDX

 

Join us for Self-Care for the Sober Curious

Join us for another free event on Monday evening May 20th in London.

If you’ve decided to cut down or quit drinking or you are just ‘sober curious’ we run an event for you ‘Self Care for the Sober Curious’ is a free event in London hosted by the charity My Yard, there will be alcohol free drinks and vegan nibbles, and we’d love you to join us for this next one!

Happening Monday 20th May 7pm at The Jago in Dalston London.

Our special guest is Hypnotherapist and author of ‘Cut the Crap and Feel Amazing’ Ailsa Frank, and Dr Richard piper from Alcohol change U.K. and there be lots of time for Q&A.

It’s free (donations to the charity are welcome) but you do need to book via eventbrite using the link below

REGISTER HERE>>>>

Follow me on instagram @janeyleegrace and the charity @myyard.org.uk to find out about the next one.

See you there, if you have any questions let us know!

Ditch The Toxins – Meet Me at Flourish Festival

*** FLOURISH FESTIVAL***
Live NonToxic – Mind Body and Spirit
10-16th June 2019

London based art duo Kevin Helton & Jane Hutchison, Founders of personal sustainability venue HELLO LOVE, have created the first Flourish Festival to raise awareness of NonToxic Practice™, a style of living designed to prevent and heal degenerative disease such as cancer through the targeted removal of all toxic substance from daily life.

 

There will be a week of workshops and speakers, on Mind, Body & Spiritual Detox techniques, Food, Wellness, Neuro Science, Spirituality and psychology.

I will be speaking about ‘Ditching The Toxins’ on Tuesday June 11th at 5-6:30pm

Other speakers will include— Zoe LVH Founder of turmeric based product brand Wunder Workshop, Jade Shaw Out of Body expert, Tamu Thomas Founder of lifestyle brand Live Three Sixty, Jessica Huie MBE Author of Purpose and Kris Hallenga Pride of Britain Award winner and Founder of breast cancer awareness charity CoppaFeel.

Featured Events include:

  • The Death Café —An invitation to reframe and talk about death in an open and honest way.
  • Releasing the Fear —Featuring Kris Hallenga founder of CoppaFeel.
  • Healing Stories—Real life stories of people who have healed from terminal illness by Hello Beautiful Founder Jane Hutchison
  • How to Find Purpose — Author Jessica Huie MBE shares her story of discovering purpose beyond society’s accepted notion of success
  • How your Mind can Help Your Body — Author Dr David Hamilton talks about the Placebo effect and how people have healed from illness and disease

Tickets start at £15, Festival pass £100
To Participate Visit:www.hellolove.org

I’d love to see you there!

Top 10 tips for facing presentation fear

A staggering number of people are afraid of speaking in public, in fact its rated higher than a fear of spiders, divorce or even death!  I once worked with a great entrepreneur who was offered an amazing opportunity to appear on Fox news to talk about her brand, she turned it down because of her fear of being in the limelight.  I really believe as the title of my book says You are the Brand, and people do business with those they like know and trust, so speaking and being able to share your authentic message is a great way to connect with them.

Here’s a few tips to help you overcome your fears of speaking in public. 

  1. Firstly accept that you may be nervous and imperfect, and that’s ok, in fact the more ‘human’ you are the better. So what if you drop your papers or spill your water?, it makes you relatable.  Nerves are normal, its ok to have butterflies in your tummy, but preferably butterflies flying in perfect formation!

2 You will be less nervous the more Preparation you’ve done. Prepare your content carefully, don’t cram in too many ideas and share what you know and are enthusiastic about, you won’t feel as nervous if you’re confident that you are delivering an authentic message.   Don’t try and learn the script word for word but DO know the ‘sections’ and asign bullet points to each.

3 Prepare for your performance too, that means saying your words out loud, its muscle memory, practice recording yourself, and watching your body language too.

4 Get your voice ready, do some vocal exercises, some tongue twisters to get your mouth moving and some vocal warm-ups varying the speed and the pitch.

5 Remember the power of the Pause, it’s the punctuation and it can help you out of a tricky moment, if you have lost your thread, just pause, check your notes (don’t have a full script on stage) and carry on, it feels like forever but its probably just seconds.

6 Engage the audience, make eye contact at various points around the room, and believe that these people want to hear your talk and are open to what you have to say. When you first go on stage if there is something bothering you that you feel everyone will be thinking say it first, ie if you have a massive zit on your nose, get that out of the way…come on stage and introduce your zit…if your contact lens are giving you hassle and you need to keep wiping your eyes, flag that up rather than have people wondering if you are upset about something.

7 Before going onstage do some breathing, when we are nervous we breathe in a very shallow way, breathe slowly and deeply.

8 Learn a simple tapping routine EFT (emotional freedom technique) allows you to tap lightly on the side of the wrist, you can say your fears out loud or to yourself but doing a tapping sequence helps to take away the’emotional charge’

9 Stand in the ‘Power Pose’ before you go on stage, just a minute or two in the so called power pose can change your state from one of fear to confidence and strength. Stand with feet apart, chest back head held high and arms by your side, look forwards and up, its impossible to fear sad and scared when you are fully upright, its what psychologists call The Cybernetic loop

10 And the big one….Visualise yourself rocking it!  Athletes often visualise themselves beating their own best time, or winning the race, see yourself coming off the stage and punching the air as you say YES I did it!

Check out the online course The Fearless Speaker, Janey Lee Grace and clinical hynotherapist Georgia Foster

 

Love, kindness and Imperfection

I wrote my first book Imperfectly Natural Woman over 13 years ago now, it was an Amazon number one best seller (after a national radio interview) and whilst being a bit ahead of my time, (I was writing about kale before it had its own publicist!) I think it struck a chord because of my use of my word ‘imperfectly’

You see in our quest for happiness, optimum health, success and abundance all of us at our core know that we are a little bit ‘flawed’ and unlikely to get everything right, especially first time around.   As someone who is a Hay House author and has interviewed many spiritual leaders I am well versed in the ‘I am enough’ thinking and the importance of self love, but I am still acutely aware of my own imperfections and failings and find it hard to reconcile that if I tell myself enough that I am perfect – lo and behold I will be.  More and more people are bringing skeletons out of their closet and admitting to suffering from anxiety and depression.  Its easy to be fooled by social media into thinking that everyone is living the dream with their instagram filtered lifestyle, so when even high flying celebs open up and admit they have down days and black dog moments everyone can finally breathe and admit #metoo.  If you run your own business it can feel especially lonely to be constantly comparing yourself to others in your field, its highly likely your inner critic will be having a field day reminding you of your imperfections and ensuring that you go deep into despair…when you aren’t putting a brave face on it for the camera.

Last year on Steve Wright in the afternoon on BBC Radio 2  we interviewed Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim on his lovely book The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down. Now he is back with a #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, its called Love for Imperfect Things; How to accept yourself in a world striving for perfection. 

He said ‘Hearing the words Be good to yourself first, then to others was like being struck by lightning’

Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us.

Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself–and the flaws that make you who you are–can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it.

Love for imperfect things; How to accept yourself in a world striving for perfection.

When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

This feels so relevant right now as I am interviewing quit lit authors and sober heroes for my new podcast Alcohol Free Life, the thread that runs through everything is the need for self love and self care.

Dr David Hamilton was a guest recently and I’ve known him for years as a fellow Hay House author, he is a former scientist and has written ten books now. Why kindness is good for you was a game changer for many people because he proved scientifically that the giver gets incredible benefits for emotional and physical well being even more than the recipient. As an advocate for a kinder world  David reminds us that just by practicing acts of kindness we can increase our happiness, improve our health and forge strong connections with others, s new book The Little Book of Kindness gives us  easy-to-follow tools, strategies and exercises so that we can harness its power to improve all aspects of our lives and the lives of the people around us.  kindness changes the brain, impacts the heart and immune system, is an antidote to depression, improves relationships and even slows the ageing process.

In our interview for the podcast we talk about how we can start to ‘re-wire’ our brain and change our thinking, so important if we are trying to change a habit or free ourselves from addiction.   David explains the difference between self love and self esteem and gives us tips for self-care.  It seems that kindness , self acceptance and gratitude are all interlinked and all of us need to get better at it.

The Little Book of Kindness: Connect with others, be happier, transform your life by David Hamilton

Another forthcoming podcast guest is Shahroo Izadi author of The Kindness Method.  She is a  behavioural Change Specialist and her book focuses on how to break bad habits.  Shahroo is a support group facilitator and therapist at Amy’s Place, a recovery house for women set up by The Amy Winehouse Foundation.  Shahroo studied Psychosocial Sciences and Psychology,and  learned an enormous amount about how drug addiction is assessed and treated in the UK.

She has a revolutionary message: treating yourself kindly is the only way to make changes that last. She is living proof that her method works – after years of yo-yo dieting she shed over 8 stone (and has kept it off ever since). Professional training coupled with personal experience led her to develop The Kindness Method™, where traditional strict regimes are turned upside down to leave you feeling empowered, positive and ready to embrace change.  Whether it’s weight loss, cutting down on drinking, improving relationships or ditching a dull job for one that you love, The Kindness Method will help you change any unwanted habit. Because when you shift your focus to your individual strengths and skills (rather than what you can’t do), you too will find you have the power to change – for good.

The Kindness Method Changing Habits for Good by Shahroo Izadi is out now

I’m also planning to talk with Patrick Regan OBE. He is an author and the Founder of urban youth work charity XLP, an organisation which aims to create positive futures for young people and make a sustainable impact on poverty and educational failure in London.

Patrick founded the Christian charity Kintsugi Hope with his wife after a series of incidents that took him physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually ‘the brink’ —at a time of illness and loss all around us.  He wrote a blog post and found that  lots of other people feel alone in their struggles; so he saw the need  to be vulnerable and open about hard times. Patrick says, This is the way that healing can take place, in safe and supportive spaces. Patrick says.

I came across kintsugi, a Japanese technique for repairing pottery with seams of gold, while I was having major reconstructive surgery on my legs. We’d also had losses and stress in the family, and I was working very hard with XLP, and suddenly there was a perfect storm of things going wrong. But we learned so much, which I don’t think we would have learned otherwise.  Kintsugi repairs brokenness in a way that makes the object more beautiful than it was before.Instead of hiding the scars, it makes a feature of them. It’s a beautiful concept, giving broken people hope for the future’ 

Honesty over silence; Its OK not be OK by Patrick Regan is out now

How wonderful is that!  Brings us right back to accepting ourselves – despite imperfection and looking for the beauty and love – even within broken things

Check out my recommendations for holistic living www.imperfectlynatural.com

Janey Lee Grace Alcohol Free Life the podcast is free on itunes and other platforms, please subscribe and rate!

Cut and Paste a Fabulous 2019!

I’ve been suggesting for a good while now that standard new year resolutions don’t really work, if you’ve already written your list and promised yourself you will lose weight, go to the gym, give up chocolate and alcohol and learn a new skill I wish you well but I’d love to recommend you take time out to visualise what you really want this year.

I was thrilled to see the article in You Magazine by Lydia Slater. She says ‘Forget new years resolutions and to-do lists, the smart way to realise your dreams is with a vision board. And if its good enough for Oprah..

A vision board (or it can be a scrapbook) is a combination of a mind-map and a collage, the idea is that you focus on what you want and allow your creative sub conscious mind to wander through images and phrases in magazines and newspapers, you can add your own photographs, postcards, drawings, anything that visually represents what you want to attract into your life.

Alongside business leaders, celebs love vision boards it seems, Lydia writes…’when Jim Carrey was at his lowest professional ebb, he reportedly used a vision board to jump-start his acting career, attaching to it a cheque made out to himself for $10 million for ‘acting services’. Oprah Winfrey made a vision board showing a picture of Barack Obama as president’  

What’s fascinating is how we seem to attract what we focus on, often we don’t really know what we want till we see a visual representation of it, our subconscious mind draws our attention to an image which makes us realise that is our deepest desire and by taking the action of cutting that picture out and sticking it onto a board we are setting the intention. It’s as if we are allowing an image of what we hope for to come to the forefront of our mind and then it’s much easier to attract that to us. It gives us clarity of what our goals and dreams are, the images, and words that we are attracted too are usually already somewhere deep down in our thoughts.

Don’t make the mistake of spending ten minutes on this though, my suggestion is that you switch off your phone, put on some relaxing music and give yourself at least 90 minutes uninterrupted time, gather all your bits and bobs before you start, a large piece of paper of card, lots of mags, newspapers, photos, plus scissors, glue

, pens and crayons, even glitter and fabric if you want to get really creative. Don’t think for too long about each image, pick out what you are attracted too, you can then position the pictures however feels right, it may be totally random or ordered and colour coded. You can of course create a vision board (sometimes called a moodboard) on the computer too, but I think there’s something quite cathartic about cutting out images.

It can be quite magical what happens next. I have a colleague who wanted a complete change of direction, living in another country and working with her passion which was being a Tarot card reader.   She had no idea how she would get her dream but she started creating a vision book and literally stuck any images that appealed. One image was of a coastline, it was beautiful and an unusual shape, she had no idea where in the world it was, another image was a photograph of her with her cards. Months later she got a call from an acquaintance suggesting she offer her services as a PA to a businesswoman in London, the entrepreneur wanted someone to live and work with her temporarily, she was then offered the position of moving to Spain to run the retreats the entrepreneur hosted, she jumped at the chance and arrived at her new home only to see her room overlooked the exact coastline she had ‘visioned’ It was in Deia Majorca. Some time later the entrepreneur decided to add Tarot readings to the list of extras for guests and my colleague was called upon to do her dream job!

My own experience was not quite so dramatic but highly amusing, I did a general vision board (I often recommend that my clients do one specifically for a business project) and amongst the usual offerings, pictures of our family on holiday, lovely beaches, some fabulous glittery images that represented success. I found myself unconsciously cutting out and sticking a picture of a scruffy black dog. When I showed the vision board to my kids they said ‘finally!!! They had wanted a dog for a long time but we have said no, it just doesn’t fit with our lives. Don’t get excited I told them, I don’t know why I was attracted to that image, we are NOT getting a dog, I found myself in the bizarre situation of wishing that what I had wished for wouldn’t materialise!

A few weeks later a neighbour appeared at the door with a dog on a lead, yes you’ve guessed it, the exact dog in the pic, meet my puppy she said, just wondered if the kids would like to take him for walks sometimes? Result! All the benefits of a pet with none of the responsibility.

They do say be careful what you wish for because your dreams just may come true!  Take some time and map out your dreams – I wish you a magical 2019

If you want help getting clarity on your USP for your brand or work get in touch with me janey@imperfectlynatural.com

 

 

 

To resolve or not to resolve, the experts share their tips

Its a debate that’s raged for years, should we make resolutions for new year or go with the flow?  In years gone by I have exhausted myself trying to stick to my resolves which are usually thoroughly unrealistic so I am very much in the camp of NOT making resolutions of the ‘I resolve to lose weight’ ‘I will go to the gym daily’ kind…because I almost certainly won’t…(well I hope I might drop a bit of weight but resolving to go on a diet is unlikely to achieve that)

Having said that though I do think its good to take some time for reflection at the end of a year.  I’ve borrowed the idea from the lovely Jo De Rosa founder of Quantum Sobriety and Inner Guidance retreats, to choose a word for the year, Jo says it acts as a kind of gatekeeper for all that you focus on, people on my Media Hub facebook group have been toying with ideas such as Abundance, Focus, Authentic, Accomplish, space, Spectacular.

jo de rosa close up

Jo by the way is queen of ‘resetting’ and empowering yourself to be your best self, check out the incredible Inner guidance retreats and the new juicing retreats for 2019 

I also like the idea of setting intentions or goals, and making a commitment , being clear on what you want is far more productive than making a ‘resolution’ which tends to be merely berating yourself for what you haven’t done well the year before.  I love creating vision boards to literally see what I would like to manifest, and create some affirmations that will work for the year ahead.

I intend to reflect on the year just gone and practice gratitude, even for the bits that weren’t so good,  hopefully I can find the learning in there somewhere….and I will definitely create that vision board.  I am going to set definite diary dates for self-care, for me that means going to walk by the sea, so as I don’t live near it, that’s going to mean a trip, minimum monthly even if its a quick train ride to Brighton to blast away the cobwebs walking along the sea front!

I asked some of the changemakers and colleagues I have been working with this year to give us their thoughts on setting intentions for the New Year ….

Often our thoughts do turn to doing something about our weight or fitness levels,

Louise Mercieca

Nutritional therapist and fitness expert Louise Mercieca says.

If top of the list for many people at new year  is to lose weight or eat healthier, people can be unrealistic and set themselves up for failure!  Drastic changes rarely work in the longer term, so it is best to be gentle on yourself!   How should you really set achievable goals and not be like the estimated 90% that fail with resolutions?

Don’t banish everything on January 1st.  Instead gradually make changes, this way you won’t notice them as much and are more likely to stick with them

Make a plan but make it for the whole year – something relevant to you and your schedule.

Involve friends and family in goals and plans so you don’t feel isolated.

Set realistic goals in small steps and allow yourself one indulgence a month so that you don’t feel you are depriving yourself, this way you are less likely to give up completely

Drink more water, it’s amazing how many people are dehydrated and yet this actually will make you less efficient at metabolising fat!

Look after your gut health, when this works you will manage your weight more effectively include both pre and probiotics in your diet.

Move more but within your own capabilities.

Don’t compare yourself to others especially those you only see on a screen or magazine cover.

Stay calm! Cortisol (stress hormone) increases abdominal fat storage so please don’t create more stress with your New Year’s Resolutions!

Sleep – never underestimate the healing powers of sleep. Lack of sleep also affects your hunger hormone Ghrelin; That leads to poor sleep = increased appetite.

Louise Mercieca is a Nutritional Therapist and author of the award-winning How Food Shapes Your Child nutritional cook book. www.louisemercieca.co.uk

 

 

JANE PANGBOURNE © Jo Blackwell Studio 07725802690-29-Edit

Jane Pangbourne Body Positivity Coach says..

It’s almost impossible not to be influenced by the ‘perfection’ surrounding us on social media and sometimes within our own friendship groups, so we need to rise above it and learn to embrace our individuality, as it appears within the 3D world of reality.

Top Tip:

If you try on an item of clothing and take more than a few seconds to like what you see in the mirror, then that outfit is NOT for you, so move on and save yourself time, money and stress. If it’s not right now, it most certainly won’t be right when you get it home.

The only New Year’s resolution you need is this: Continue to be uniquely YOU! Even if you could manage to be someone else for a while; it isn’t sustainable, and you’ll be miserable by the end of January!

On that note, Carolyn Bointon doesn’t class herself an ‘expert’ in positivity but she has a lovely idea, Carolyn says..

I’ve learned that over people’s emotions impact on me so I strive to make friends appreciate the good in themselves, whether its a compliment on their hair or clothes or a simple ‘wow you handled that well’ I find surrounding myself with people who feel good  about themselves makes me feel good too! So not entirely altruistic but a good resolution and one that I can keep!

If you’re looking for more fulfillment  in 2019 here’s a comment from Nadine Searle

‘Follow your heart and listen to what it is telling you.
Give yourself the gift of some calming connection meditation everyday. It needn’t take up much of your time but it will be a valuable habit to cultivate in 2019. Spend time in nature if you can or establish a delightful ‘me time’ space……tune into the rhythm of your breath and use the Mindfulness practice of gentle questioning. Ask your heart “What do you need?” ” What direction you might take?” “what do you really want to do?”, “How best you might serve the universe or just serve yourself?”…….resist the temptation to answer these questions, instead just continue to listen to what comes up.
We have all the answers we need within ourselves if we only just listen. This practice will lead you to a happy, healthier you in 2019′.
Nadine……Transformation through Relaxation……..www.calmerself.co.uk

Ever heard of The Wheel of Life?  Leah Dixon writes..

There are 3 steps to successfully reaching your goals and one of them is more important than you think:
1.The Wheel of Life is a coaching tool that emcourages you to look at your life in 8 parts. You choose these, but generally areas such as career, health, relationships, hobbies, finances, personal development, spirituality and social life are good examples. Look at your life and review where you are at and decide on your most important priorities. Rate each area from 0-10 and get a clear picture on what needs to be worked on and how urgently. Once you have decided on your most pressing goal (consider anything under 5) that needs urgent attention, the next step is visualising the future outcome.
2.This is the fun part, it is also the one many people overlook. Its not enough to say ‘I want to be a size 10’ and put a photo of yourself 20 years ago on the fridge. That’s the past. Allow yourself to dream of the future you who has realised your goal already. This can be done in meditation, before bed or on waking, when our brains are more receptive. So imagine what would reaching your goal feel like? Engage all of your senses in this dream. How confident would you feel walking down the beach in your bikini at your ideal weight? How desirable would you be as you feel the sun on your toned skin? Notice how strong and flexible your body feels swimming in the sea. What would you say to yourself? What clothes would you be wearing for an evening out? What compliments would people give you? Your subconcious cannot tell a dream from reality. Engaging in this visualisation everyday will mean your body has to catch up with this new future version of you. It will also make any changes more enjoyable as you relish in the achievements your future self has already made.
3. The how is the final stage that people usually go straight to. Yes researching and planning is important but don’t skip step 2. Break down your big goal into manageable chunks. Find out who has already succeeded doing what you want to do. There’ll be a book, an app, a blog or a workshop that tells you how others have done it. Use their knowledge to achieve results. Adapt it to suit you. Modelling is a great technique to achieve success. If you want to be more confident find someone you admire and copy their body language. Babies learn to walk by modelling those around them. Its the easiest way to learn and adapt. No need to reinvent the wheel. If there’s already a tried and tested method then use it. Just be sure to commit the time and energy where its needed. If you’re not a morning person then don’t plan to go to the gym before work. Reaching your goals isn’t a punishment so don’t make it one.You’ll find once you’ve got your vision the universe will line up to place people and resources in your path to help you with the how. Aligning your current self with the vision of your future self will create your new reality. So if you’ve tried writing down your resolutions and then skipping straight to the planning stage back up and immerse yourself in visualising your new future where your dreams are already a reality.
www.metamourphosis.com
 

To Conclude..

So at the start of a new year take some time to reflect on the one just gone, ask yourself what you want for the coming year and tune in to how you might go about making that happen.  If there is something you have been putting off, something you know has to be addressed there’s no better time than harnessing the energy of a new year.  Treat yourself to a new journal and scribble away, read my blog posts on writing being the best therapy, it might change your life!

You’ve heard me say it many times before…If there is something you want to achieve, whether is a new business, a charity, the book you always wanted to write, the relationship you know you deserve, you will need to visualise it, imagine it and then take action and above all remember

You Don’t have to get it right…you DO have to get it going’

I wish you a wonderful blissful abundant and joyful …and healthy New Year