It was great to interview Cassie Mendoza-Jones for Hay House radio recently, she wrote the awesome book You are enough, and now her new release is Its all Good How to trust and surrender to the bigger plan.. Cassie is a Sydney based kinesiologist, business alignment coach, naturopath, writer and speaker, who works with women, and with entrepreneurs, healers, coaches and creatives who are driven, devoted and honoring their dreams, and who want to become more powerfully aligned to their bigger vision, clear away perfectionism, procrastination and overwhelm, and create their own version of a beautiful and aligned business and life.
Cassie is keen to remind us, especially those of us in business who so often feel that we have failed, that our failure doesn’t spell the end: As Cassie says ‘Your perception of your failure is just that—a perception—and with awareness, self-compassion and aligned action, you can clear the disappointment and take aligned action to invite in clarity, and a new beginning’
At the start of a new year it’s easy to set ourselves up for failure, as we determine that next year we will be more focused, more successful, more influential…or whatever our goals for our business might be.
I have a very definite love hate relationship with ‘goals’ and resolutions and I like Cassie’s approach which is to suggest that as business owners we should set intentions rather than goal. She has a fabulous tip which brings together the concept of intention and manifesting or ‘attracting’ what we desire. She says we should try setting our intention, preferably in writing, make it something that feels important that we want, whether it’s to attract new clients, be offered a book deal, be invited to be interviewed on a radio show…and then add the words…or something even better…or you may want to add….or another wonderful surprise….
By adding these little phrases we leave the outcome open, we let go of the strong grip we can sometimes have on what we think we want, let’s face it when we look back, some of the things we thought we wanted for our work would have been disastrous if they’d come to fruition at that time! Similarly it’s a good idea to let go of perfectionism. Nothing works out perfectly all the time for anyone. Sometimes it’s important to acknowledge our expectations but be willing to release them
Cassie says ‘A new you is born through the fire of failure: ‘Our failures and disappointments teach us so much; they help us back ourselves even more as we take steps in the directions of our new dreams. They help us change our mind, deciding where we want to align ourselves, allowing us to open up to a new way of being and thinking’
She has a nice calming affirmation –
‘I allow myself to dream and set goals, and also to be open to something even better flowing to me. I trust that my intentions will manifest in the right time and in the right form for me. I trust that I am on the right path’
We discussed leaning into trust, and how we should trust that our most intense moments of feeling ungrounded may come right before your biggest expansion, so trust the path you’re on. Cassie says ‘The crumbling down of what you know is paving the way for what’s to come; you simply can’t see the new path because the old mess hasn’t settled into its new beauty yet. The old is becoming the new; be patient, and trust. You’ll see it soon.’
We also discussed clearing space just to be. In my own work I sometimes feel so completely overwhelmed and in chaos, my rational mind knows that there simply wouldn’t be space for anything new to come in, however deeply I desire it! When I feel like that I now realise I must declutter both physically and mentally, I’ve taken to cleaning off a section of my desk, or finding a messy shelf that needs a sort out (they are abundant in my home!) the sense of order that comes from that is amazing,
I also try and lie down for a few moments and mentally close off all the thoughts that are flying around, she suggested I imagine that my mind is like a computer desktop with lots of tabs open (that’s easy to imagine – mine is always like that!) and mentally close them all down, ie the to-do lists, the obligations et al, until there is nothing open and we can do a complete shutdown, we hold that stillness where there is just a dark screen and a little ‘dot’ before it all swirls into action again. Preferably dealing with the ‘projects’ one at a time.
Above all this book reminds us that we can trust in ourselves and know that we are supported in our path, and when we let go of our expectations we can truly receive our dreams…or something even better.
It’s all Good by Cassie Mendoza-Jones is published by Hay House
The time your dreams take to manifest is needed for your roots to take hold: Trusting in yourself and your path in life allows you to find the strength and courage to show up in life again and again after a disappointment, as your best self. It allows you to let go of your expectations, while still setting goals and intentions, and being more than okay to sit in those spaces in between setting your goals and seeing your dreams manifest. Cassie Mendoza-Jones