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How Wishes Come True…

It’s great to be doing a short run in panto. I almost said no till a wise friend said ‘do it’ – it’s like being a kid again, I am the Fairy Godmother in Cinderella making wishes come true!

I wish you a magical holiday period and hope 2016 is the year where your wishes come true.

I don’t mean that flippantly – what’s interesting is that many people who are passionate about their work are so preoccupied with how they can help others and grow their brand that they haven’t stopped to ask what it is they really want for their business. That’s not the same as a business plan or a projected growth, I’m talking about the bigger picture. In my new book ‘You Are The Brand’ I talk about the importance of defining your one big dream and being really specific, saying I want to make loads of money won’t cut it, (you may get a windfall or a massive order only to then see it disappear again.)

Leaving yourself out of your dream is common too amongst heart centred business owners. One client who is a very successful expert in weight management said her dream was that the NHS recognised the link – fast forward to utopia for them (tricky to imagine I know) but assume the dream delivered and the NHS got it and offered NLP techniques to all – and she didn’t feature! She had left herself out of her dream and her brand!

Own your own USP and your own unique brilliance and decide upon your one big dream for your business. Be very clear on all the details, base them in reality while still dreaming big (it probably won’t work to dream of being an Olympic swimmer if you don’t like getting your ears wet).

Then get set to be amazed what could happen next – something will – once you set your intentions and have real clarity on what you want magic happens! You notice things you haven’t noticed before, someone comes into your life…

You believe in magic don’t you?

 

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Am I Good Enough To Compete?

Theodore Roosevelt once said “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Since I started coaching clients the question I hear over and over again is ‘Am I good enough?’ People who want to write a book or get their book out there to a wider audience often tell me they are fearful that the market for what they write about is already overcrowded – ‘there are already so many books on my subject’…they lament…’ Will anyone be interested in mine?’

Of course my answer is always the same, there may be many books on your topic but there’s only one YOU’ – That’s why it’s critical to really know your YOU-sp (USP) – what it is that makes you YOU-niquely different.

Having said that I’m not immune either to the odd ‘wobble’ about my credentials. Recently I was thinking about planning an event around helping people with their public speaking skills, helping experts and entrepreneurs become the Go-To expert in their field and how to attract opportunities and maximise them.

Just as I was about to start looking at venues I saw some advertising for an event not dissimilar to the one I was planning – except that this entrepreneur had hired a huge venue and seemed to be totally rocking and at the top of her game in that arena. What did I do? Panic! – I went through all those same concerns and fears, am I really good enough, could I ever fill out a big conference venue?

I must admit I really did feel as though the wind had been taken out of my sails, it took a session with a great inspirational coach (we all need someone a few steps ahead of us) to make me realise that my experience and message is not the same as my ‘competitor’ and what I share with my audience is different and just as I remind my clients, I too have my own skills, talents and specific USP – for starters I’ve had twenty five years in the media and been on both sides of the microphone!

So I calmed down and recognised that by simply comparing myself unfavourably to someone else who seemed to be ahead of me, I was procrastinating, holding myself back from just getting on with sharing my YOU-nique brilliance, I was allowing all the negative inner talk to take over.

Sometimes of course it’s good to check out the competition, absolutely google around and see what others are doing in your field, it also doesn’t make much sense to host your event the same weekend as a competitor if the target audience may be similar, but don’t get obsessed by what others are doing, there will always be people ahead of us (thank goodness – they can pave the way and help us) and there will always be those coming up behind. And perhaps with our unique skills talents and clear definable ‘USP’ we can assist some of those newbies – the ones who are our ideal clients.

That’s the key really, there’s only one YOU and you are the right person for the right ‘tribe’ or ‘community’. Other experts, brand owners and teachers will be the right person for another community. Ultimately it’s a big old ocean and there’s room for lots of ripples, so go ahead and make your waves!

One tip – before you start your speech, or make the important phone call to get you noticed, or even sit down to craft your course or write your book, try the Dr David Hamilton approach to feeling confident:

It’s scientifically proven that good posture helps with self-esteem, so regularly practice (and definitely before any kind of performance), stand with your feet about hip width apart, as if rooted into the ground, shoulders back, head up, look straight ahead, take a deep breath and say out loud ‘I am enough’ – Yes you really are!

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Biting Fit’s Whole Life Detox Retreat Weekend 2016

Biting Fit’s Whole Life

Detox Retreat Weekend 2016

Saturday 23rd and Sunday 24th January 2016 at Buckden Towers, Buckden, St Neots,  PE19 5TA

Indulge in a whole-life rejuvenating experience hosted by Gwen Warren, Founder of Biting Fit Whole Life Detox Retreats and world-class, international coaches, authors and speakers including Janey Lee Grace, Alice Barnes, founder of ABC Image, Anna Clifford, founder of Barefoot Therapies, Karen Knowler, The Raw Food Coach and Elaine Hilides, International Speaker, Coach and Hypnotherapist. This holistic experience will offer you the attention and time you need in a relaxing, interactive and stunning environment where you can expect to make some long-lasting connections with like-minded people.

  • Imagine a place where you can come and feel like YOU again. The real YOU.
  • Imagine having the tools, inspiration and knowledge to turn your life and your SELF around for good.
  • Imagine feeling at Peace, overflowing with contentment regardless of life’s circumstances
  • Imagine saying goodbye  to that feeling of OVERWHELM

The Whole Life Detox Retreat includes:

  • The whole of the beautiful beautiful Retreat Centre, secret garden, and surroundings at 15th Century Buckden Towers
  • Refreshments all weekend
  • Wonderful, Biting Fit- designed, professionally created Detox Lunches (x 2), Dinner and Breakfast menu prepared by our Chef
  • SIX International guest coaches, best-selling authors and speakers
  • Gentle Yoga, guided meditation and relaxation sessions
  • Reiki, Hot Stone Massage, Kinesiology and Reflexology Taster treatments (of your choice – with advanced booking)
  • A Wellbeing Goodie Bag

This is the first Retreat at Buckden Towers, they would love feedback and so are offering this Retreat with a one time only 45% discount. This will not be available again.

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Get It Going…

You will have seen the story across social media recently about Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg and his wife Priscilla Chan who wrote an open letter to their new-born daughter saying they want her to ‘grow up in a world better than ours’.

They have committed to giving away 99 per cent of their Facebook shares (that’s estimated at around 45 billion dollars right now) to charitable causes. They will still be exceedingly rich but there’s no doubt that their philanthropic statement brought them even more notoriety and their fair share of controversy too.

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‘If I had only one dollar left I’d spend it on marketing’ is one of Bill Gates favourite sayings and he certainly got some column inches in the UK recently too (and probably got paid for his time!) about his financial giving. There was a heart-warming interview in the Daily Mail ‘You’ magazine – Meet the everyday billionaires, Judith Woods spoke to Bill and Melinda Gates and found a grounded lovely family with strong values.

‘Bill loves doing the washing up and I like to slip into my yoga pants and eat popcorn’: At home with the world’s richest couple’ was one of the boxed out headlines and of course the angle of the piece was not to promote themselves and their corporation (let’s face it their net worth is £53 billion – more than the wealth of some small countries!) however they were clearly willing to put themselves in the frame – to stand in the spotlight – in order to get even more awareness for the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation which doesn’t fund its own projects but channels funds into existing organisations such as the World Health Organisation and Unicef.

The couple have poured over 19 billion of their own money into it and the investor Warren Buffet has also donated billions. They are very ‘hands on’ though and shared their vision of large scale philanthropy with the interviewer.

For me as the reader looking at this three page article with images of Bill and Melinda with their children and on a visit to one of their charitable projects in Haiti it made me totally warm to them, it gave me an insight into what makes them tick, and if it’s still important to Bill (and I’m guessing it will be!) he should pat himself on the back that he has reassured yet another customer that he (and his wife) are people that we can do business with – because we feel we can Like, Know and Trust them.

Like me, you are probably not at the stage where you will be asked to appear in a three page spread about your life and work in a national Sunday supplement, you almost certainly won’t have a cool 45 billion dollars to donate to good causes, you may not yet be in a position to leave your day job in order to follow your passion but remember the saying…’You don’t have to get it right, you do have to get it going’ and if you are going to succeed in a heart centred business you must remember that people do business with those they like, know and trust. Be prepared to be visible within your business.

Oh and according to Melinda you should be willing to take some risks, Warren Buffet gave them this advice when establishing the foundation… ’Don’t just go for the safe projects, take on the really tough problems’. If you have got an idea brewing that seems just too scary…ask yourself – should I feel the fear and do it anyway?

If you have a book to write, a business to launch or grow, an idea to nurture, a programme to promote, take a risk and get it going. Be willing to put yourself in the spotlight and don’t forget to attract some attention….your marketing may cost a little more than a dollar but without todays social networking opportunities maybe not much more!

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Introducing the ‘New for 2016’ Awards

We’re excited to be launching entries for our ‘New for 2016’ awards. For new flagship products launched between July 2015 and March 2016 and you can enter up to three individual products.
Please complete your entries and fill in the form asap!
Products must arrive with us before January 10th 2016.

We look forward to receiving your entries soon!

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The Heart of The Matter

In my work helping experts, coaches and authors to get clarity on their uniqueness and their key message I realised that I need to offer clarity on my own USP which is that I work with heart centred businesses or entrepreneurs.

A very practical colleague who prides himself on not having any of that hippy dippy woo woo stuff asked me – what’s a heart centred business? Don’t you just mean someone who enjoys running their business, doesn’t everyone, especially if it’s successful and they earn money?

I had to think about it, I realised I couldn’t help anyone who didn’t love their work, I wouldn’t be able to help anyone to stand in the spotlight and share their key messages if they weren’t passionate about it, I asked myself If someone enjoyed earning a good pay packet from running online gambling websites would that tick the heart centred businesses box?

Not for me, unless time stood still for them when they were absorbed in their work and they felt called to do it on some level, (and it was genuinely for the greater good), I’d question whether they had found their purpose, whether they were doing the work they were really born to do.

For me being heart centred when it links to your work means being connected to who you are and why you are here to share your message, whether that’s by way of your product, service or talent.

I attended a wonderful matrix re-imprinting course – yes the room was full of heart centred practitioners – and the founder of the work Karl Dawson told us about the importance of the heart, not just our emotions, the physical organ. He pointed us to extensive research on its powers reminding us that scientists say it picks up on thoughts, events, actions, even before they happen, it operates in quantum time.

To begin with this can seem far-fetched, surely when we think of a heart we just see lovely cute Valentine’s day images, it signifies romantic love or love for a child or an animal, but there are negative images attached too, we also know that a high proportion of people have heart disease, heart failure, heart attacks, we worry about cholesterol levels, high blood pressure and stress and when its linked to our emotional state, we talk of a broken heart, we recognise that our heart can expand to an even great capacity than we thought possible (enough to love subsequent children as much as the firstborn)

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Most of us acknowledge the importance of our brain but sometimes don’t recognise that the heart is Emperor within the mind / body system, it’s the first port if call to receive the ‘energy’ of anything, it communicates this to the brain, the brain signals to the body to tell it what to do, and then we have a conscious realisation – oh I’m feeling scared…need to run, I’m feeling upset, my ears will fill with tears, I will cry.

Of course all of this all happens automatically but as we all well know it’s going on constantly and the more negative the emotions the more stressed we become. Many people live in a constant state of stress, the adrenaline is high, they are ready to fight or flee – but there isn’t really a tiger there – it’s just that the bus is late, or the delivery hasn’t been despatched, or we didn’t get chosen to participate in something we had worked hard for, but we don’t fight, and we don’t run either (interestingly that’s why if we do physical exercise it can be brilliant for relieving stress) usually the stress is internalised.

Karl also made us aware of the work of the US Heartmath organisation. HeartMath was founded by Doc Childre in 1991 to help individuals, organizations and the global community incorporate the heart’s intelligence into their day-to-day experience of life. They connect heart and science in ways that empower people to greatly reduce stress, build resilience, and unlock their natural intuitive guidance for making better choices.

Surgeons have reported that they have given heart transplants to patients who when recovered, take on the characteristics of the donor.

 

The film Heartless portrays Angus Deayton as a straight laced divorce lawyer who has a heart transplant after a sudden heart attack, acting on a new impulse he gets an urge to buy a leather jacket and motorbike and takes off to the wilds of Scotland, there he decides to stay in a B&B, sees a photo on the mantelpiece of a guy on a motorbike, it transpires it’s the owners husband who died in an accident and donated his heart – to Angus’ character – its fictitious – yet according to some surgeons plausible.

What can we do with this kind of information? Well quite a lot it seems, Heartmath have made popular a simple breathing technique that could transform our lives, from the school room to the workplace to our personal relationships and could probably massively reduce the burden on the NHS with anxiety and stress related illnesses.

We watched Karl via the internet link up his heartrate to a monitor on the Heartmath site, we saw his starting heart rate graph, fluctuating between 90 and 50 bpm, the graph showed a chaotic jagged line, then he did the simple Heartmath exercise, with his hand on his heart he took 6 slow breaths in and out, then he consciously thought of something positive, a time when he felt great, a place where he wanted to be, someone he loved deeply, within seconds his heart rate had stabilised and the graph become a gently flowing wave – no more jagged rises or dips – it was extraordinary.

This is what athletes call being ‘in the zone’ – others call this state being in flow…it’s a state of high coherence bringing the brain in sync with the heart. In Ireland it’s used widely in schools, some forward thinking teachers are using it in UK schools too, can you begin to imagine how different everyone’s day might look if it became standardised?

Ask yourself – are you heart centred? You may decide to spin the word around and feel centred at your heart space, try the simple Heartmath technique before the next potentially stressful thing you know you need to do…and check in with it to ensure that you are on course with the decisions you make for your work and your business …..Let me know how you get on.

www.heartmath.com
www.matrixreimprinting.com

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Your life in 7 days

I’ve written lots of articles and blogs around procrastination and recently I’ve had to take note of my own issues around stopping short of doing something just because I know I can’t make it as perfect as I’d like, sometimes good enough really is good enough!

I’ve also written recently about the death of Wayne Dyer and how that amazing man with his legacy has inspired so many people to follow their dreams – his phrase ‘Don’t die with the music still in you’ is something I trot out regularly especially to clients who tell me they know they want to write  a book, start their business, become the founder of a charity…

Nothing brings this home more than the analogy of ‘Your Life in 7 days’  Years ago a normal lifespan would be seen as ‘3 score years and 10 – meaning we will hopefully make it till the age of 70 – (of course most of us hope to live a lot longer but bear with me!)

So if each decade represents a day, and we are born on a Monday, most people reading this will be over twenty so onto Wednesday already, some of us are into Thursday or even (ahem) Friday or into the weekend ….

It really focuses your mind as to how you are spending your time, if there’s something you know you want to do, when will you start it ?  If not now – when ?  Having explained this to my hubby he sometimes says to me (especially if I’m asking him to do something for me rather than himself)…’.darling I’m on the Friday of my life, I need to do XXX’    Of course he is right, we all must prioritize what it is we are really here to do, define your purpose and get cracking.

By the way if you are on ‘Sunday’ I wouldn’t worry about that one bit, the great Louise Hay is 89 (way past the sell-by 70) and she is rocking (and recently learnt a new skill of playing the piano)    Heres hoping we will all make it to that ripe age and beyond, still feeling young, still feeling energized by living our purpose and passion, but why wait to see what age you make it to ?  If you know what you are meant to do, start right away.  remember you don’t have to get it right, you DO have to get it going.

If you want help getting clarity on your passion purpose, and USP (unique selling point) and your YOU-nique brilliance get in touch I offer a one hour clarity call.

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Don’t Die with the Music in You

I was sad to hear recently of the passing of Wayne Dyer, as a Hay House author I had met him and heard him speak several times and was always struck by his humble yet inspirational persona.   He has regularly been listed as one of the ten most spiritually influential people in the world and last year Mind Body Spirit magazine ranked him at number eight.    Wayne was a best-selling author of over 40 books including his first book Your Erroneous Zones, which is believed to be one of the best selling books of all time, (an estimated 35 million copies sold around the world).

Hay House said of Wayne – ‘He offered a way of being that was at the heart of change, a way of experiencing the world so that your focus is internal — on the I AM — and connected to the Source energy of creation.  When we move from “what’s in it for me” to genuinely putting our energy and attention into visualizing ourselves in a capacity of serving, the doors to fulfilment open for us, when we extend ourselves in a spirit of giving, helping, or loving, we are acting as God acts’.

People giving tribute to him included Oprah Winfrey and Ellen DeGenres. Fellow motivational speaker Tony Robbins also wrote on twitter: ‘Wayne Dyer has passed away today. For those of us who loved him it’s sad, but he knew death was a transition. We send love for his next adventure.’  Many tributes mentioned that Wayne had no fear of dying and I must confess I envy him that.

Many fans called him Mr Motivation, one thing Wayne was brilliant at was helping people to overcome feelings of guilt and inadequacy and get started on what they wanted to do, where they wanted their light to shine in the world, one of the phrases made famous by Wayne was ‘Don’t die with the music still in you’    He certainly didn’t and his huge catalogue of work remains to inspire us.  It’s a great reminder to us all if there’s something you have always wanted to do, be it write a book,  start a charity climb a mountain, if not now….when?

If you want help with clarity and confidence to get started and get your message out there get in touch!  www.janeyleegrace.com

 

 

 

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Is Perfectionism leading you to Procrastination?

Is Perfectionism leading you to Procrastination? Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies – allowing the ‘inner talk’ to take over and tell us ‘We’re not good enough…won’t get the clients…’ This was really brought home to me when a colleague asked me why I’m not doing more vlogging around PR/Media skills etc – I had to really stop and think – with some embarrassment I had to admit that despite advising my clients, entrepreneurs, therapists, authors, experts to get their bite sized bits of content out there on short video clips I hadn’t been doing it because somewhere in my deep seated subconscious I was a perfectionist and because in my career as a Radio and TV presenter I had always had the works – make-up artist, great lighting , cameras, autocue etc – I believed my ‘home grown’ efforts wouldn’t cut it.

Ouch!   A realisation that my deep rooted perfectionism in this area was actually leading to Procrastination – by needing it to be ‘perfect’ I wasn’t doing it all!

It’s likely that your sticking point isn’t the same as mine was – maybe you have always wanted to write a book, but can always find excuses, maybe you know you should create an online course but just cant find the time….whatever it is check in with yourself that the ‘but’s that are holding you back are real….not imagined…. Here’s my thought for the day – You don’t have to get it right – you just have to get it going!

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Create Compelling Content

If you are a small business owner, coach, therapist, expert, author – if YOU are your brand, the answer is a resounding yes!    Don’t get confused into thinking that a blog has to be a daily diary, a blog post is an article, its a sharing of your opinions facts and passion about your area of expertise.   We live in an information rich society and people are hungry for great content.   You may be thinking – I have lots of information and content on my website, but its not the same, blogs are much less static, you can use social media to invite people to read your blogs and interact with you on a certain topic where they may not necessarily want to spend time on your website at this point. Read more